Who wouldn’t feel stressed by the following scene? You are sitting across from
a person you just met who now looks over some very personal information you
have provided for review. All your documents and forms have been collected and
prepared with great care for accuracy and completeness. Now this total stranger
asks you questions that appear to challenge your sincerity. You wonder, why
does this “all business” individual seem to doubt your stated purpose in coming
to this meeting? Don’t they know or care that you have already made choices and
changes in your relationships, career and lifestyle, some of which have involved
great sacrifice on your part in terms of time, money, and, yes, even more stress?
In any ordinary circumstance of life, such an exchange would, at the very least,
be considered rude, if not an actual outrageous intrusion into one’s private life; a
failure to appreciate the beneficial goals you have set out to achieve. However,
this is not the usual meeting, but is the required Interview step in the Immigration
Process. And there’s good reason to be adequately prepared and ready for what
may be a stressful experience – as it many times will and should be since you are
progressing [and progress takes effort] from one step to the next.
The documentation and interview: it’s only a test, a process to show that you
are qualified to go on to another level. And about stress: when we realize that
we should expect this uneasiness to occur, then the experience becomes less
confrontational, more about protocol.
Immigration Examiners are professionals trained to review documents and to
question applicants to discover any missing parts needed to legally qualify the
questioner to adjudicate the application.
For marriage based green card interviews following the rules and procedures is
only one step; there’s a legitimate step described as “determining [in the case of
marriage] whether the couple’s relationship is bona fide.”
You have your personal goals which involve immigration status change or
adjustment of status. When you know you are fully prepared and qualified, any
emotional anxiety and fear is just a normal part of the process.